You’ve all been so unbelievably kind, thank you for all the well wishes and blessings!
I was just talking to husband about blogging and how I wonder if it’s good that I keep putting myself out there…here…you know what I mean. Sometimes, I do question if I should exercise some form of discretion or privacy. But then, I think back to the days when I felt like I was at the bottom of the deepest pit in the world, all alone and miserable, and I realize that I write because it keeps me sane. More importantly, I hope that my words will bring some form of comfort and companionship to those who are going through the same infertility shit as we did.
Anyway, I know that people are just DYING to know more about the nugget. I mean, I would too, but I am just terribly kaypoh to begin with. So think of the following as some sort of FAQ if you will, heh.
That picture. Were those supermodels?
Why yes, thanks for asking! Those were the undeniably sexxxy abs of Mr Thick and me. That’s why I love the man, he’s such a good sport and he actually laughed when I suggested taking that photo.
Erm, how was the nugget conceived?
Through good ‘ol fashioned unprotected S-E-X.
But I thought you were infertile!
So did we! After a year of trying plus a year of failed treatments (seven IUIs and one IVF but who’s counting?), it was evident that something wasn’t working. Problem was, we didn’t know what wasn’t working. His boys weren’t the greatest but they weren’t bad, I had PCOS but I was ovulating.
So what worked THIS time?
I lifted my legs up in the air and did bicycle kicks for 20 minutes after sex.
Honestly, we don’t know. It was just a, in Sims speak, whoohoo for fun. I was fully expecting to go for my second round of IVF in October.
What was different: for starters, we consulted a fengshui master, who made recommendations on how we can change the layout of our furnishings to suit our lives, both individually and as a couple. We made the changes, did some minor renovation works and voila! along comes nugget.
At the same time, I was also seeing a TCM doctor, who had me boiling and downing herbs every. Single. Day. I was on my second cycle with her when I discovered that I was pregnant.
Lastly, spawning was the last thing on our minds. We were just having a break from treatments and injections. We even made travel plans without the thought of what if we are pregnant for the first time in two years. But Murphy ADORES me and so I went for two quick holidays within my first trimester when it’s considered a no-no to do so.
So what worked? It could have been any of or all three factors. It might even have been the “just relax and you will get pregnant” rubbish, who knows? Maybe I’ll have to eat my words.
How did you find out you were pregnant?
Ah, I wrote a whole bunch of private posts on that, which I will be unlocking shortly. Watch this space!
How many weeks along are you now?
We are almost 13 weeks now. The Tiny Human is due in March next year. But because the kid has his/her father’s fat genes, we have moved the due date up TWICE. IN SIX WEEKS.
Do you want a boy or a girl?
The textbook answer is, as long as the baby’s healthy, we don’t care. But between you and me? I want a girl NAO! Girls are so much fun to play with. But Mr Thick wants a boy, because he thinks that boys will be easier on his pocket.
How was your first trimester?
Both good and bad. The perpetual nausea and exhaustion almost downed me, I was hating every journey I had to make to and fro work on the MRT. But thankfully, that was as bad as it got. I was very lucky that work was winding down for me and my boss was both understanding and comforting.
So that’s that. Like I said, I have a bunch of posts that I had written during my first trimester which are locked up now. I’ll be unlocking them soon so stay tuned!
14 thoughts on “So…questions, anybody?”
I was actually thinking about you and your baby when I was showering today. Showering is the time when I meditate sort off..and all kinds of thoughts pop into my head…please excuse the inappropriateness. It was so odd, but I just so genuinely happy & excited for you….my young blog friend on the interweb.
It’s wonderful when good things happen to good people. So far in my life it’s been the opposite and that sucks. I was also thinking what a cutie patootie your lil girl or boy will be. I just instinctively referred to her as she in my posts….hope my instincts are right.
My friends hubby gave her the same reason for wanting a boy…lighter on his pocket….because he would expect her to shop shop shop for all those pretty lil girl clothes. Who wouldn’t ;-p Can’t wait to read your locked posts 🙂 Hope the pregnancy is easy on you with minimal nausea. I must say you have such a sweet boss.
Just makes me think the world works in mysterious ways….sometimes it’s just so hard to explain why things work out the way they do. This child definitely gonna be a mighty lucky baby.
I too grapple with how much personal stuff I should put out there..it scares me. But I hear you…writing keeps us sane.
Thanks for sharing with us! 😛
Cant believe after your many rounds of IUIs & IVF, it just happened so simply & miraculously! 🙂 Cross my fingers…..I want the same sort of miracle! hahaha
How on earth did you maintain to keep mum for the entire trimester? It must be hard, since you must be bursting with excitment, waiting to announce the wonderful news to everyone around you!
hmmmm…can give me some tips too? which TCM doctor did you consult? 🙂
Dear Bookjunkie, thank you for your lovely thoughts as always! You are right, the struggle between sharing and maintaining some semblance of privacy is a hard line to toe. But I admire you for your courage in talking about your panic attacks. You’ve been so open and truthful about it, and it’s hard not to be moved by that.
Genie, I know, we couldn’t believe it ourselves! It actually can happen! I was seeing Dr Xia from EYS at Paragon.
Hi yAnn, I’ve been following your blog for a while and I totally love your wit, humour and way with words. Just wanna congratulate you on the great news! I’m sure you guys will be awesome parents to the little nugget.
Been a reader of yours… congrats congrats congrats!! Had a good feeling about you and i’m glad I was right! =)
And i totally understand about the whole blogging and privacy bit, I sometimes feel i shouldn’t be so out there with my emo-ness, but sometimes, getting encouragement from perfect strangers, especially those who’ve been through what you’re going through, really helps. Cos the friends who read, may just not understand, while others do.
Congrats once again, and here’s to many happy diaper changing moments!!hurh.
Just wanted to congratulate u and yr hubby on the little nugget! So glad for u guys!! And what bonus that u conceived naturally without all the pain!! Simply awesome!! Enjoy the journey and keep writing!! ;))
I too grapple with the line between expressing myself and exposing myself. The former is what I want, and what soothes me very much, the latter isn’t! Especially since relatives and people I know who shouldn’t know that much, are prowling my blog now. Yikes! But I do agree that it’s a good medium to get the joy/angst out to no one in particular. And for you Yann, I enjoy reading your thoughts!!
Btw, you answered the questions I didn’t dare ask. Teeheehee. Looking forward to meeting your little nugget when I return to Singapore next year!!
Congrats! I have been a silent reader and I hope you dont mind, I shared your blog on singaporemotherhood forum with some fellow ladies who have been TTC-ing =)
Do take gd care and all the very best!
OH yeah!!! Congrats!!! Sooo happy for you. This is such good news hahahaha feeling hopeful all over again for wonders in life! Thanks for sharing! And Congrats again!!
Congratsn! Hv been a silent reader all along. Which gynae r u seeing?
Congratulations! I’m glad things finally turned out well for you and your hubby. Having been a silent reader for at least 4 years, and understanding the difficulties between sharing and keeping some things private, I still want to thank you so much for all your wonderful posts. Your writing and photos spur me on to want to be both a better writer and photographer at the same time. Many you have many wonderful moments from now on amidst all the nausea, bloaty-ness and diaper changing to come =)
Thanks all for your kind words!
Queenwiggly – you are so right. Friends who know of the situation may not get it completely and yet random strangers who read my words seem to understand it perfectly. And yes, I guess that’s what keeps me going. 🙂
The Pleasure Monger – can’t wait to meet up again! 🙂
As much as i rejoiced over your bb gift, I kept wondering if I’ll ever be able to get a similar chance to rejoice too 😦 [u should know how painful the TTC process is…].
Just wanna see my odds of ever becoming a mummy… is it possible to share with us your previous TTC woes?? Did u experience irregular menses, low basal temp, low progesterone etc etc before u struck the lottery??
I understand how you feel, but have faith and keep plodding on!
I never had any problems, to be honest. If you have time, I had written about my journey in previous posts and they are tagged “IVF” and “Infertility”.