This morning, I received some bad news.
A dear friend of mine, who has been on the same infertility journey as I have been, found out that her latest IVF attempt had failed. When the text came in, I was sitting on our bed, playing with our little man. He had been crying and I was trying to make him laugh by pulling him up from a reclining position to a sitting one. It was a hot morning, the air-conditioning wasn’t switched on and his hair was matted to his head. He hadn’t had his bath yet and carried that slightly sour, sweaty but still oh so wonderful smell. Husband had just stepped out from the bathroom and was smiling at the sight of his wife entertaining the little one.
I read the text and my heart fell, remembering that feeling of the world shattering down upon me only too well. I thought about their past struggles and the heartbreaks that they had been through. I thought about how much they deserve their slice of happiness too. I thought about how that used to be us and how we are no longer on that exhausting, pain-riddled road.
I closed my eyes and kissed the top of Aidan’s head. I breathed in the smell of him and told him that I love him, that he was the miracle in my life.
Because he is indeed a miracle.
Nobody, nobody would have ever imagined that we would be where we are today. If you had told me a year ago that I would be cuddling a baby everyday – MY BABY – I would have laughed in your face. I was broken, and I was trying to pick up the pieces and move on. In my most terrible nightmare, I believed that I was destined not to have a child.
And here we are today.
What had kept me going was the belief that things happen for a reason, and that everything had its time and place. I don’t know why they have to go through these trials and tribulations but I believe that they will get their happily ever after.
I just know it.
3 thoughts on “The long and winding road”
Hi, I feel your friend’s pain… This blog (and this post) helped me through some of my darker days in our struggle to conceive and I hope it will help your friend too.
We also went through rounds of IUI and finally conceived via IVF with Dr SF Loh. Perhaps your friend could try seeing him? He has quite a high success rate.
Hi. Hope u still rem me. I so understand how it feeling like been fail trying for one. I too went down the emotion when I fail mine once and thou maybe we are not fated to be parents. But who knows after the 2nd tries we finally make it and now I am abt 3 weeks more to go… Thing happens for a reason and that reason must be a special one….
I did a post like that before, where I truly thank God for blessing me with a baby naturally and I dont have to go through all the needles just to achieve the dream of having your own child. Makes you feel like cursing all those people who abort their babies huh.. no offense to those who do haha.