Two of Us

13, going on 14

Dear husband,

And just like that, we have spent 13 years of our lives together.

As Shakespeare said, the course of true love never did run smooth. If so, then man, our love has to be the truest of the true. Because somehow, the Universe always throws us a hurdle or curveball or two, and is all TAH-DAH, YOU SUCKERS.

Despite all the challenges that we had faced throughout our years together, I have never regretted putting my hand into yours that night on the Benjamin Sheares Bridge as we crossed into the new millennium, light flares and fireworks illuminating the dark sky. Not once, not even when we were faced with joblessness, lack of money, lack of direction.

And yet, as we entered parenthood, I found myself flirting with the idea of how my life would have been had I turned into another direction during our cobbled walk down the path of life.

In all honesty, being the mother of your child is one of the most pressurising hats that I have ever put on. There were moments when I absolutely hated it. Don’t get me wrong, I love you and I love my child. But it’s not easy being the womb that birthed the only grandchild in the family. It wasn’t something I had signed up for when I married you, I certainly did not envision marrying the rest of your family as well when I said “I do”.

It doesn’t help that our marriage has also taken a backseat to parenthood. We are always tired, constantly changing diapers, making sure that the little man is happy and clean and fed and entertained. But we forget that we need to make time for each other too. As much as he is growing and blossoming, so should our marriage. We need to drag out even the smallest bit of effort in order to make this work.

13 is the luckiest number? Perhaps so, in our case. We were blessed with the child that we have always longed for and he is everything that we had imagined and more.

But what’s better than 13? Why, 14, of course!

Love you always.

7 thoughts on “13, going on 14”

  1. Happy Anniversary babe! The first year of parenthood can really break a couple apart. But I also think that if you survive the parenthood journey together, the marriage grows and the relationship will become stronger than ever. You guys are doing awesome-ly! I found my marriage back in the 2nd year of parenthood. I m sure you will too 🙂


  2. First year of parenthood is tough indeed but all those sleepless nights and diaper changes will cement the bond with your spouse. Both of you are doing great! Happy anniversary!


  3. Lovely post 🙂 Yay for year 13, may 14 be even more blessed! And from the other side of two years I can definitely add my voice to the chorus above: it does get better and easier! We’ve even decided to do the whole thing again, and let me tell you, our first year was rough on us, even though our baby mostly slept and ate well. But our lives changed (several times over in fact including the baby, our jobs and our living location), so we had to re-assess our priorities and it turned out we weren’t on the same page. Or reading the same chapter. It did take that whole first year to figure out what we were doing, where we were going and how we were going to do it together. But we’re doing it together and we’re enjoying life and each other and it’s all good now. So good in fact that we’re ready for another tornado. Well, we think we are, anyway!


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